Stopping Your Spouse from Divorce: How to Be a Good Spouse and Restore Your Marriage

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Stopping Your Spouse from Divorce: How to Be a Good Spouse and Restore Your Marriage

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There are numerous reasons why a once committed relationship would degenerate to one partner asking for a divorce. It could have been:

* an affair
* having been separated by a long distance for lengths of time
* conflict
* behavioral issues or psychological problems of one spouse
* even unmanaged addictions.

Regardless of the problems seen and experienced on the surface, the bottom line is that usually, barring any abuse or psychological problems that are best handled by a professional, a couple can find themselves in danger of divorce. And believe me, if you care enough about your spouse, divorce should NOT be an option!

Conflict or anger itself does NOT have to cause an irreparable rift between partners. With good communication skills and a shared commitment to a marriage, even these are surmountable.

However, at that point where one partner is at the brink of abandoning the relationship, how can the remaining partner save their marriage?

If you are at the point where your spouse has asked for a divorce, what can you do?

You must realize first that, YOU DO HAVE A CHOICE. Often, when confronted by a crisis, we find ourselves backed into a corner thinking we have no choice in the matter.

How can we change the situation when it involves another person’s feelings or decisions?

How can we stop the pain?

Become a Good, Loving Spouse

Here’s the thing. You can CHOOSE to wallow in pain and anger…or you can CHOOSE to become even more positive and loving towards your spouse. You can choose to blame and shame your partner or you can choose to take stock, be accountable for where your marriage is and move on towards a more fulfilling, happy you.

Yes, you heard right. YOU can CHOOSE to be fulfilled and happy in the midst of crisis.

Even if your spouse is stubborn and unresponsive, you can still change yourself and become as engaging, positive and proactive as you were when you first fell in love.

Usually, at the struggling stage of a relationship, one or both couples would look back and miss the good old days where it was easy to be together. You can capture those days again – and even add to them with your own current maturity and growth.

After all, you did not spend all those years together to throw what you have away so easily.

You and your spouse have made a huge investment into this partnership and your intention to stay in the marriage through positive loving actions, through open communication and strengthened commitment, can help your spouse refocus their view on what you once committed to.

Become a loving person again by caring for your spouse in the little everyday things. Be there for him or her when before you may have been too much of a workaholic.

This marriage crisis may be the one thing that raises your awareness of the many gifts your relationship has offered you. Sometimes we don’t appreciate things that come to us too easily, or don’t appreciate them until they are gone.

By raising your awareness of your marriage crisis, and empowering yourself to stay positive regardless of the many influences threatening to drag you down, fate has offered you the chance to change your perspective.

Let go of the negative. Let go of the fighting. Once you are able to do that, you are ready to start loving.

Set aside intimate time just for your partner alone whereas previously, you may have let the kids take up too much of your time.

Then, when the time comes that you are able to open communication with your spouse and actually sit down and discuss the crisis you’re in – ask him or her if he or she realizes just how much effort a divorce could entail?

Does your spouse actually realize that a divorce has emotional, financial, logistical and physical consequences, often stretching out years beyond a divorce?

A divorce brings CHANGE and it is definitely not to be taken lightly. If your spouse wants a divorce, is he or she prepared to embrace this change?

Final Steps

Finally, you also have the option to involve a third party or mediator to help you and your spouse through this situation. If the situation is truly serious then by all means, get help.

This is not the time to let your pride get in the way. A professional counselor, trusted elder or neutral friend can help in putting things into perspective between you and your partner and may even help unlock deep seated concerns or issues.

For all you know, it may be as simple as your partner wanting more attention or more ways to open up to you.

For more tips on helping yourself get the best of of your marriage resolution, check out the time-tested tips at Save My Marriage Today:

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Good luck, and get going restoring your marriage!

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